tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9260269.post3152845236992984039..comments2023-09-14T19:04:03.738-07:00Comments on many a mile to go **: Identity CrisisCasshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04551097088915179208noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9260269.post-81929548788935493122008-01-17T17:44:00.000-08:002008-01-17T17:44:00.000-08:00My New Year's Resolution is that this year I will...My New Year's Resolution is that this year I will be at least as groomed and stylish as my children. <BR/><BR/>Sigh.<BR/><BR/>I was actually given gift certificates to a grocery story for Christmas, which is nice but I mean, I used to be given gift certificates to clothing stores. It felt like my family had decided that I was nothing more than a cooking, child-caring-for lump. I'm sure that Staciehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04505622963819102492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9260269.post-28423362662243302442008-01-15T12:33:00.000-08:002008-01-15T12:33:00.000-08:00I hear you.Plus I just turned 40, so that's adding...I hear you.<BR/><BR/>Plus I just turned 40, so that's adding to my feelings of frump. I have fantasies about pulling myself together, but it hasn't happened yet.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9260269.post-68109270477343674222008-01-14T22:03:00.000-08:002008-01-14T22:03:00.000-08:00You know Cass you could still wear that feminist t...You know Cass you could still wear that feminist t-shirt...<BR/><BR/>i got my hair cut for the first time in years just before Christmas. it was ridiculously expensive but i felt great.OvaGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12150362175853549015noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9260269.post-70048232200047795222008-01-12T15:48:00.000-08:002008-01-12T15:48:00.000-08:00Oh, this is huge for me. I think I care too much, ...Oh, this is huge for me. I think I care too much, but at the same time it breaks my heart that I've lost my edge, so to speak. Being identified as a mom (and not much else) has been a hard adjustment for me. I miss my old self, my old look, my old <B>me</B>. <BR/><BR/>That's not to say I'd trade my babies to have it all back. Nope, no chance of that.Bad Egghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13816598778115494310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9260269.post-45068863686328101302008-01-11T16:06:00.000-08:002008-01-11T16:06:00.000-08:00for me it's my new figure (or lack of one) which i...for me it's my new figure (or lack of one) which is the problem. I can't fit the cute clothes any more, so i'm slobbing around in loose trousers and tops. I have started to put on eyeliner a couple of days a week, that's start, right?Thaliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12125639207843989848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9260269.post-19580722005094820672008-01-10T19:25:00.000-08:002008-01-10T19:25:00.000-08:00I think I look pretty much the same now as I did b...I think I look pretty much the same now as I did before. Maybe even a little better because that was some nasty depression in those infertile years which is not kind to self care. But I didn't have much of a style to begin with. I'm just me, and that's how I like it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9260269.post-81652379981590676792008-01-10T17:27:00.000-08:002008-01-10T17:27:00.000-08:00I totally hear you. Well, except for the being coo...I totally hear you. Well, except for the being cool and funky before being a mother. But now I sometimes look in the mirror in the middle of the day and realize I didn't even rub the hair gel in or some such thing. I'm always covered in baby stains and I have no bras that fit correctly. I don't even do dressing professional and standard ATL well anymore. And I finally colored my hair after Evahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18162496719896724710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9260269.post-29188237689790271502008-01-10T16:38:00.000-08:002008-01-10T16:38:00.000-08:00OMG- I so hear you on this. I know you didn't ment...OMG- I so hear you on this. I know you didn't mention this aspect, but I'm just so frustrated with post-babies weight and the fact that all my cool clothes are about 5 sizes smaller than what I am right now. And I can't really afford a new wardrobe right now- unless I get on What Not to Wear, which my husband keeps threatening to nominate me for.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9260269.post-61703701410054445812008-01-10T14:58:00.000-08:002008-01-10T14:58:00.000-08:00I have one of these identity crises, it seems, on ...I have one of these identity crises, it seems, on a near-weekly basis. I've tried a few little things, and none of them have really helped. I guess I do take some secret delight, though, in looking like a respectable mama while still being a rebel girl at heart.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9260269.post-41948683124194471822008-01-10T14:33:00.000-08:002008-01-10T14:33:00.000-08:00I was just thinking about this very issue today on...I was just thinking about this very issue today on my walk to work - lamenting my new "style" as the motherhood induced frump aesthetic. How fun for you.<BR/><BR/>I used to stand out. Not in a particularly wild way, but I always dressed uniquely and with style. I don't even know what that is anymore. <BR/><BR/>One of my things to help change this is my plan to get another tattoo (on the MsPrufrockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06533722219016814501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9260269.post-33270150430860294832008-01-10T14:27:00.000-08:002008-01-10T14:27:00.000-08:00I know the feeling. I've definitely let myself go...I know the feeling. I've definitely let myself go lately... to the point that I actually let my husband cut my hair, with not very stylish results. <BR/><BR/>Maybe a bit of a wilder makeover IS in order? <BR/><BR/>I bet you looked fantastic with a bit of red and/or purple hair. Best to do it while the kids are too young to be embarassed, right?<BR/><BR/>When I was in college, I knew a mom whoBittermamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13130551051224443601noreply@blogger.com